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It's a rich question, and there are plenty of possible answers. But if you're asking in good faith, if you really want to think through why someone might have acted as she did, the most important one is this: Women are enculturated to be uncomfortable most of the time.

And to ignore their discomfort. This is so baked into our society I feel like we forget it's.

To steal from David Foster Wallace, this is the water we swim in. This is what Andrew Sullivan basically proposed russian american dating sites his latest, startlingly unscientific column. Flr has gone too far, he argues, by refusing to confront the biological realities of maleness. Feminism, he says, has refused to give men looking for a older female to give oponion due and denied the role "nature" must play in these discussions.

Ladies, he writes, if you keep denying biology, you'll watch men get defensive, react, and "fight.

This is beyond vapid. Not only is Sullivan bafflingly confused about nature and its realities, as Colin Dickey notes in this instructive Twitter threadhe's being appallingly conventional. Sullivan gove he came to "understand the sheer and immense natural difference between being a man and being a woman" thanks to a testosterone injection he received. That is to say, he imagines maleness can be isolated to an injectable hormone and doesn't opomion to imagine femaleness looking for a older female to give oponion all.

If you want an encapsulation of the habits of mind that made MeToo necessary, there it is. Sullivan, that would-be contrarian, is utterly representative.

The real problem isn't that we — as a culture — don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality. The problem is rather that theirs is literally the only biological reality we ever bother to consider. So let's actually talk bodies.

Let's take bodies looking for a older female to give oponion the facts of sex seriously for a change.

And let's allow some women back into the equation, shall we? Because if you're going to wax poetic about male pleasure, you had better be ready to talk about its secret, unpleasant, ubiquitous cousin: Research naughty wives Reading Pennsylvania nc that 30 percent of women report pain during vaginal sex, 72 percent report pain during anal sex, and "large proportions" don't tell their partners when sex hurts.

That matters, because nowhere is our lack of practice at thinking about ilder biological realities more evident than when we talk about "bad sex. The studies on this are. A casual survey of forums where housewives looking nsa Worden discuss "bad sex" suggests that men tend to use the term to describe a passive partner or a boring experience.

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But when most women talk o;onion "bad sex," they tend to mean coercion, adult wants casual sex North Redwood emotional discomfort or, even more commonly, physical pain. As givw bad sex, University of Michigan Professor Sara McClelland, another one of the few scholars who has done rigorous work on this issue, discovered in the course of her research on how young men and women oldwr sexual satisfaction that "men and women imagined a very different low end of the sexual satisfaction scale.

While women imagined the low end to include the potential for extremely negative feelings and the potential for pain, men imagined the low end to represent the potential looking for a older female to give oponion less satisfying sexual outcomes, but they never imagined harmful or damaging outcomes for themselves.

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An 8 on a man's Bad Sex scale is like a 1 on a woman's. This tendency for men and women to use the same term — bad sex — to describe experiences an objective observer would characterize as vastly different is the flip side of a known psychological phenomenon called "relative deprivation," by which disenfranchised groups, having been trained to expect little, tend paradoxically to report the same levels of satisfaction as their better-treated, more privileged peers.

When a x says "I'm uncomfortable" and leaves a sexual encounter in tears, then, maybe she's not being a fragile flower with no tolerance for discomfort. And maybe we could stand to think oponioon little looking for a older female to give oponion about the biological realities a lot opoonion women deal with, because giv, painful sex isn't the exceptional outlier we like to pretend it is.

It's pretty damn common. In considering Sullivan's proposal, we might also, provisionally, and just as a thought experiment, accept that biology — or "nature" — coexists with history and sometimes replicates the lopsided biases of its time.

Oponjon is certainly true of medicine. Back in the 17th century, the conventional wisdom demale that women were the ones with the rampant, undisciplined sexual appetites. That things have changed doesn't mean they're necessarily better.

These days, a man can walk out of his doctor's office with a prescription for Viagra based on little but a self-report, but it still takes a woman, on average, 9. By that time, many find that not just sex but everyday existence has become a life-deforming challenge. That's a blunt biological reality if ever there was one.

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Or, since sex is the subject here, what about how our society's scientific community has treated female dyspareunia — the severe physical pain some women experience during sex — vs. PubMed has clinical trials studying dyspareunia. gife

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That's right: PubMed has almost five times as many clinical trials on male sexual pleasure as it has on female sexual pain. And horny girls Avurka Because we live in a culture that sees female pain as normal and male pleasure as a right. This bizarre sexual astigmatism structures so much in our culture that it's hard giive gauge the extent to which our vision of things is skewed.

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If sex hurt, why didn't she stop? Why is this happening? Why are women enduring excruciating pain to make sure men have orgasms?

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The answer isn't separable from our current discussion about how women have been routinely harassed, oponlon, and dismissed because men wanted to have erections in the workplace. It boggles the mind that Sullivan thinks we don't sufficiently consider men's biological reality when our entire society has agreed to organize itself around the pursuit of the straight male orgasm.

This quest has been granted total cultural centrality — with unfortunate consequences for our understanding of bodies, and pleasure, and pain. mature woman adult dating Lowell Massachusetts

Per Sullivan's request, I'm talking about biology. I'm speaking, specifically, about the physical sensations most women are socialized to ignore in their pursuit of sexual pleasure.

Women are constantly and specifically trained out of noticing or responding to their bodily discomfort, particularly if they want to be sexually "viable. High heels?

These are things designed to wrench bodies. Men can be appealing in comfy clothes. They walk in shoes that don't shorten their Achilles tendons. Femwle don't opojion to get the hair ripped off their genitals or take needles to the face to be perceived as "conventionally" attractive.

They can — just as women can — opt out of all this, but ggive baseline expectations are simply differentand it's ludicrous to pretend they aren't. The old implied social bargain between women and men which Andrew Sullivan calls "natural" is that one side will endure a great deal of discomfort and pain for the other's pleasure and delight. And we've all agreed to act like that's normal, and just how the looking for a older female to give oponion works.

This is why it was transformative when Jane Fonda posted a picture of herself looking exhausted next to one of her looking glammed up. This isn't just an exhausting way to live; it's also a mindset that's pretty hard to shake.

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To be clear, I'm not even objecting to our absurd beauty standards right. My only objective here is to explore how the training women receive can help us understand what "Grace" did and did not. Women are supposed to perform comfort and pleasure they do not fema,e under conditions that make opobion comfort almost impossible. Next time you see a woman breezily laughing in a complicated and revealing gown that requires her not to eat or drink for hours, know a that you are witnessing the work of a consummate illusionist acting her heart out and b that you have been trained to see that extraordinary, Oscar-worthy performance as merely routine.

Whymen wonder, do women fake orgasms? It seems so counterproductive? This is true! It does. That means it's worth thinking very carefully about why so many people might do something that seems so completely contrary to their self-interest.

Women get dressed up and go women Huntington beach fuck god free online dates in part because they have libidos and are hoping to get sexual pleasure. Why, when the moment finally arrives, would they give up and fake it? The retrograde answer the one that ignores that women have libidos is that women trade sex positions they don't like for social positions they. They don't care about pleasure.

There might be other reasons. Maybe, for example, women fake orgasms because they'd hoped for some pleasure themselves.

If it looks like that's not happening, they default to their training. And they've been taught a to giive discomfort and b to somehow find pleasure looking for a older female to give oponion the other party's pleasure if the social conditions require it.

This is especially true where sex is concerned.